Yasss…They have kids too

Yasss…They have kids too

Being a mother comes first in my life. I mean as soon as I wake and my feet hit the ground I’m in full mommy mode. So it comes to no surprise that my social life is non existent. I get invited to many blogging events and most aren’t kid friendly and just conflict with my mommy schedule. I work full time so after work its time to cook, clean and prepare for the next day. Then weekends are split between birthday parties, toddler events and SOCCER, yes I’m a soccer mom.

Well some how me and Lami became Facebook friends through mutual friends and she said she wanted to start blogging. Well you know me I was like go for it honey. Blogging is therapeutic as well as a way to start a mini business. I’m all for seeing other woman win. Well fast forward her blog @themillennialmuva launches.(Which is amazing please check it out). She starts a Instagram chat of beautiful talented black woman so that we can build a sisterhood and collaborate. Wednesday she suggest we all meet up and I say lets all go to Jupiter. Jupiter is a really good modern breakfast place in the Sugarland Square.

As meet up day approaches I’m running out of babysitter opitions. I decided Kai will have to go with me. Not knowing how others would feel about my active two year old joining our evening brunch. I waited until the day of to announce that I was bringing him along. To my surprise other woman in the chat replied “I’m bringing mine to” it was such a relief to hear I could have twerked. So now I’ve charged every electronic device, packed snacks and grabbed anything else that could possibly entertain him and we hit the road to get to the brunch. I knew with Kai coming I’d need to get there early settle him and have like a 1-2-3 talk “Don’t embarrass me, unless you want a pop pop”. In walks Shawna so I immediately introduce myself and apologize for my toddler running wild we had been placed in  private room and Kai was burning off energy. She didn’t seem to be bothered as the table filled with beautiful faces in walked Chenelle with her adorable two I leaped for joy like “Yasss I’m not alone”. Shawna was so sweet organized all the kids to one side of the table. Lami and her two came and were seated we had a full on party.

Somehow even with the children there with us they were not a distraction. We even forgot they were there. The TV was purposely changed to Disney. We sat at that big wooden table for hours just listening to one another’s goals and visions. We where productive holding each other accountable for what we want to do how to get there.

Towards the end I glanced over at my sleeping child and he had spaghetti sauce all over his face. Seemed like no one noticed which was hilarious. I cleaned his face and continued in conversation. Then as we left and went our separate ways I was driving home to nap of course and hit me. We all came together learned each others strengths and weaknesses as small business owners all down to encourage, lend a helping hand in any way possible. We all live busy lives weather we are students, moms or work multiple jobs but a few things were made clear you have to be determined to win every day, the desire to win has to mean more than desire to take easy routes. But you truly win, when your whole team wins. Who cares if we have kids that not going to stop us and the fact that I found woman who don’t mind kids and some even have children of their own I’m forever grateful for.

In conclusion “Who ever said you can’t have it all, must not have been a mom”.

Why I regret saying “I want a BOY”

They say be careful what you wish for or you just might get it. From childhood I would always say “I want my first child to be a boy”.Even when I got pregnant my first thought was I hope and know that this child is a boy.

img_0831-2Modern day we even throw gender reveal parties to announce the babies gender before arrival. Cute and catchy themes like tutu’s or football’s.

I remember the day I found out the gender. Impatient at 13 weeks I paid a specialist to do a gender scan and 3D DVD. Well after 2min the specialist said “well this little fella isn’t shy it’s a …….Boy”.Instantly I cried tears of joy, I skipped right over a gender reveal and called everyone to announce the news.

Everyone congratulated me saying boys are the best. Their easy to raise but hard to shop for. I thought of all the sports he would play even went as far as selecting a future jersey number.

We began to select names, buy clothes and even decorate his nursery. As a first time mother I was excited I felt prepared reading all the books taking parenting classes. We would talk and try to guess who he would look like and act like.

Which brings me to my biggest regret. Now that I’m a mother and I’ve changed thousands of diapers, nursed him, watched him take his first steps and so much more. It hit me I prayed specifically for a boy selfishly. Why did his gender even matter. I should have been more focused on having healthy child.

Now that I’m a more seasoned parent I can say I’ll never put so much energy on a specific gender. Being able to naturally conceive and carry a child to turn is a journey, some never get that experience. I’m more than thankful for where this journey has taken me and honestly with the next little one I rather the gender be a surprise. I encourage everyone to understand if you have a boy a girl, if you carried naturally, had in-vitro or adopted each child/baby is truly designed and intended for you no matter the timing or the gender. I love my son unconditionally not because of his gender but because he the very best part of me.

How to Distress T-Shirts

How to Distress T-Shirts

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TIP TUESDAY

For the past two years we have worn matching shirts for Kai's birthday. Not sure where I got the idea from but this year I wanted to put a spin on things. We had a Lion Guard birthday theme. Dad loves Kanye fashion style and had me distress old t-shirts for him in the past. I decided last min I would distress out family shirts the night before Kai's second birthday. Below find out exactly how I did it.
1. Went to Etsy to find the perfect Lion Guard logo I wanted the full cast not just one character.
2. Got plain tees from Target
3. Found a local print shop to print our names and the Lion Guard logos on to the shirts.
4. Took bleach and an old towel to the shirts and put bleach in random spots.
5. Washed and Dried shirts to get the smell of bleach out.

This was a very cheap and creative way to take our shirts from simple to a little edgy. So what will you distress? Shirts, jeans get creative. Be sure to like and follow.

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Kai Turns 2 

Where do I start I’m battling so many emotions. A part of me is excited but fearful to tackle what most call “terrible two” but as I reflect back on the moments that brought us here I’m truly blessed.

Imagine as a parent feeling hopeless I was beginning a new job paying off bills and financially  not in the same place I was in last year during his 1st birthday. Me being the super mom that I am I said no matter what I’ll make this 2nd birthday worth remembering.

First I threw him a back yard BBQ in St.Louis my hometown. Family and friends got to see him for the first time we truly enjoyed ourselves. So what could or would I do for his actual birthday in Houston.

I thought smart, well what’s free? Because free is for me. I googled restaurants that give birthday rewards instantly to my surprise a list of 50+ from Benihana’s  to Baskin Robins where  on the list. So I’m going to take him to our favorite 2.

His actual party will be Saturday which was pre planned. Luckily this year I won’t be running around stressed trying to prepare. Last year I dropped 12lbs from stress, organizing and planning his 1st birthday. This year we chose Kid n Play and a simple theme inviting only 20 special guest.

Now that he’s two it’s hard for me to say verbally that I have a two-year old. I guess a part of me misses that little 7lbs 8 oz baby I gave birth to. It seems that if I say TWO then I’m acknowledging he’s not my little baby anymore. I was in love with this little human from the first heart beat and now here we are at TWO and it hasn’t gotten easier. Yes I may sleep through the night and don’t have to nurse but I’m saying No a lot more, I’m sleeping with both eyes open but most importantly I’ve gotten the opportunity  to love my greatest creation for two years. So here’s to TERRIBLE TWO I’m ready for you.

To: Mahkai Moyosore Ismail

Love Mommy

Toddler Lookbook

Toddler Lookbook

I may not care about fashion for myself but for my little guy I get a bit excited. I’m still frugal with his clothes I use coupons, shop in the off seasons, I even cut old pants into shorts during the summer. Our favorite stores to shop are Zara, H&M and OshKosh to name a few. But here below is the details of his look book A-Z on school days.

 

I love to throw on hats on bad hair days even if he doesn’t keep them on

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  • Shirt: Carters
  • Shorts: Gap
  • Shoes: Carters
  • Hat: Gap

 

 

 

 

 

 

The second look was throwing in a pop of color

  • Shirt- OshKosh
  • Jeans- Oshkosh
  • Shoes- Lebron

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wednesday better known as hump day, we go a bit more relaxed

  • Shirt: Carters 
  • Shies- Adidas
  • Shorts- Carters

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My pick of the week was different shades of blue

  • Shirts- H&M
  • Shoes- Oshkosh
  • Shorts- Carters

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A little goes a long way.

  • Shirt- H&M 
  • Shoes- Adidas
  • Pants- Zara

 

Overall I save time by picking out his clothes on Sundays and having them set aside for our busy week. I always try to have fun with his outfits and keep him comfortable. Kids grow fast that’s why he never wears anything that I’d be afraid for him to lose or destroy with juice stains which are the worst. Let us know which was your favorite pick of the week.

Why I’m not a Fashion Blogger 

Oddly enough some mistake me for a fashion blogger. If it’s a blogging convention or networking event instantly people assume fashion blogger probably because I’m young. This makes me laugh if people only knew that my daily attire is buns and yoga pants. I salute fashion bloggers because fashion can be critiqued by many and perfected by a few. If I had to define my style it would be Kate Middleton mixed with honey boo boo mom. I’m not lazy I just will only put effort into true outings. My friends assume I have so many clothes because I’m never in the same thing twice and the trick is no post means I can reware or possibly I just don’t go out enough to be caught in repeat outfits.
I was invited to be a guest on a show the host introduced me as MomTea the fashion blogger I chuckled and corrected her I’m actually a modern-day mommy blogger. I read fashion blogs, I know mommy fashion bloggers but I don’t think it’s a skill that I’ve gained lucky enough I have my in home stylist aka my love he’s really into fashion. His fashion style is Kanye he takes much longer to dress than me and there’s always mysterious packages of clothes every week that he sneaks to order. Most of my greatest looks he’s selected.

I’m my own MUA when necessary partially because I’m to cheap to hire someone. I don’t leave the house like a rag doll but I put more effort into my toddlers fashion then my own.

For me blogging and the type of blogging I enjoy doing is lifestyle/motherhood. I could write about motherhood for hours upon hours simply because I’m passionate about it. Especially for the young moms, motherhood is unpredictable each day is different. Motherhood has changed if you’re a stay at home mom, working mom or a single mom with the changes in technology, social and life itself much has changed. Moms are like super hero’s you have to wash the dishes, clean raise the children and many times hold down a full-time job as well. So I will leave the fashion to the fashionable and I’ll just stick to what I know and learning each and everyday “modern-day motherhood”.

The Addiction

I’m guilty, I have been hiding a secret from my readers. The first step is admitting the problem. Clears throat: “Hi my name is TearuaL and I’m addicted to shopping for Kai clothes. I began to realize I had a problem once he began to outgrow things before even being able to wear them. Yes I budget, Yes I catch deals but a habit is still a habit good or bad.

When you go in the little girls section there are many options, but once you find the small boys section many of the items look cheap or just all the same. Dinosaurs, Dogs and Frogs. So I’m always very creative when it comes to styling Kai. Honestly his fashion choices and style I put more into than my own. I have a sense of guilt if I shop and don’t purchase at least one item for Kai.

The negative comments that I get from many people are why do I spend so much on children’s clothes. Here is the gag I look at his clothes as an investment, I plan to have more children who will be wearing hand me downs. I shop on a budget and coupon. The tips I use while shopping for Kai are simple.

  1. Countless times I go in Gap, or Carters and shop off season on the Clarence rack finding some deals as low as 99 cent.
  2. I take out cash while shopping, once I’m out of cash I wont swipe my card this keeps me in budget.
  3. I subscribe to every type of point and reward their is and  the benefits is getting the offers or percentage off on your purchase.
  4. Lastly I go to off retail department shops such as Ross, TJmax and Nordstrom Rack to get all of his shoes and discounted designer brands.


Will I seek help for my addiction probably not. I see it as people will spend their money as they see fit and no matter what clothes Kai wears only I would truly know the price so what may look $100+ may only be $10. This is my guilty pleasure I not giving up. What are your fashion tips for your little one.